Forgiveness isn't for the other person, it's for YOU!

“They didn’t contribute with anything, they just hurt me, what do I have to thank them for?”

Think about it, you are the person that you are today because of all the decisions that you made and the things that you learned. Even the people who hurt you, added something to your life, they showed you who to avoid, or you realized that you weren’t a match. It’s definitely an useful lesson for the future. 

You might not be fully aware but every choice that you made, every encounter that you had, every challenge that you faced and overcame, as well as every victory, shaped the person that you are today. There were a lot of scenarios in which you could have ended up in a whole new situation, maybe worse, maybe better. One thing is for sure, that person who would have resulted from those scenarios, it wouldn’t have been you. 

Remember this: forgiveness isn’t for that person, it’s for you. It’s something that helps you quiet your mind and get rid of any regrets you might have had.

I’m sure that most of us had something like this happen. We kept our feelings bottled up, we were mad every time we thought about the person who wronged us. Even if we didn’t, our life wasn’t right because there was something in our head that really bugged us. It took a while to realize what it was and we still didn’t do something about it. Everything that bugs your subconscious will come out, one way or another. Don’t let things add up, deal with them. For your mental health, you need to learn how to forgive, accept and move on.

Does forgiving someone make you feel better?

Studies have found that the act of forgiveness can reap huge rewards for your health, lowering the risk of heart attack; improving cholesterol levels and sleep; and reducing pain, blood pressure and levels of anxiety, depression and stress.